Why We Cultivate Defensive Attitude to "FEELINGS"
Life is So Beautiful and Happening too. During our short span of life on this planet called earth.We behave and act differently each day as such not a single day is same for us in any way. Every day comes to us with new challenges, happiness and sometimes sad moments as well.
Many a times we find our self laughing at the top of our voice with tears in our eyes. Its nothing but the way to went out our feelings Like feeling of tenderness,disappointment,Joy,Pity ,Resignation, Fear and many more things..........
When we go to a film with a sad ending . We could see hear clearly all over the cinema blowing their noses. I can recall Movie name " Talash" . It was a late night movie with a friend as i was so eager to see that movie. Somewhere some part of movie i associated with my life and becoz of that i still remember very clearly i came out of theater with tears in my eyes and it was rolling on my cheeks till i reached home.So i never felt odd for the way i behaved that day infact i always remember that movie with smile on face that through that movie i made vent for my feeling to express.
We all are not that smart at hiding feelings and i personally believe we should not instead you express it. Simply Express when you fall in love, express when someone did something of proud or ashamed,express when you are worried or puzzled..
Treat the feeling the way it is meant for ...
Feelings are the language to keep us in touch with each other. And Secret of getting along with people is to recognize how they feel and to let them know you know... When Someone is rude or quarrelsome. It's often a way to say " Pay Attention to my Feelings"
Awareness of feelings comes to us naturally,if we let it...
I have one beautiful instance, which i would like to share here.
Few days back, while walking by a school. i saw many small children's holding colourful balloon in their hand and waiting for their school bus to come. And Suddenly, a string of balloon slipped from the fingers of 3 years kid. He curled up his face with the grief of loss...
The kid standing next to him , caught his eyes and stretch out his arms and released his own balloon too.. and to this, that 3 years old kid lough out loudly along with tears in his eyes..
Beautiful Moment to Capture!!!!!!
Feelings wells up from the depth of personality,shape by a lifetime of experience and provide a reliable and automatic self guidance system. It may not help you in playing stock market or paying your income tax returns or acquiring your professional goals but yes it will help us in all real fundamental issues of life...
Like to decided whom to marry, whom to trust as a friend or colleague , what to do with when we face death or life..etc..
Than why do we deny our feelings?? Why we prepare defensive attitude for feelings??
When we subtract feelings from marriage,friendship or work what is left than??
Two person sharing money, food shelter even sex but that two will remain stranger for ever if there is absence of feelings..
The one thing that can tie relations into one are " Share of feelings"
"Don't be afraid of your Feelings" Just share and spread Happiness!!